Photography by Millissa Martin

One day, Katherine Duclos’ son handed her four flat LEGO squares, stacked, in colors he’d chosen for her. “I thought you’d like the colors next to each other,” he said. It was a small gesture, but it rearranged everything for the Vancouver-based multimedia artist.

Katherine is autistic, as are both of her children, and building LEGO sets the conventional way had always defeated her. “He was very good at the sets, but I was not,” she says of her son. “I lack the ability to rotate images in my brain and struggle with spatial diagrams, so the instructions are very difficult for me. I have in fact never completed a LEGO set without help.” She built alongside him anyway, because for her family, parallel play — sharing the same space while doing entirely different things — is integral to how her children develop and regulate. Her son wanted her next to him. “Mama, will you build with me?” he’d ask. She needed a way to build with him on her own terms and actually enjoy it — because he could always tell when she was masking.

Those four squares gave her that. Instead of a product, she saw modular color, bits she could use like any other, without having to make “the thing” the instructions told her to. She could simply build what her eye wanted. And she hasn’t stopped since.